Originally written by Meri Wallace LCSW, expert with Psychology Today
Gratefulness is a very important concept. It means feeling appreciation: for life, other people, what you have, and what others do for you. It is important to incorporate gratefulness into your children's daily life because it will help them to manage their desires: It’s OK to want things but you can’t have everything you want, and it is important to appreciate what you have and what is given to you. In many ways, gratefulness is a way of life that helps people function better in relationships and feel happier in life.
Here are some ways to teach your child about gratitude:
Encourage family members to thank one another for a kind gesture, word or gift.
In the hustle and bustle of the day, it is something we often skip in our ongoing relationships. But it teaches your children not to take things for granted, and to feel and express appreciation.
When your family sits around the table for dinner (or is traveling in the car), along with recounting the day’s events, you can ask your kids what they were especially grateful for that day.
Maybe a good friend made your child laugh, or the teacher taught her something new and exciting that gave her pleasure. As you tuck your child in at night, talk about all the things that your child can feel grateful for: her family, her health, her home, the food she has, and all her lovely friends.
Model gratefulness for your child by talking about how thankful you feel for him: his smile, his kindness, and his loving nature.
When you are taking a walk in the woods, talk about how grateful you feel about the beautiful clouds in the sky and how joyful they make you feel. You will communicate that it is important to appreciate life and the beauty of the world.
You can also help your child build gratefulness into her perspective of life events.
When your child is feeling jealous that her friend got to take an airplane trip and she hasn’t, you can acknowledge her wish to travel, and her feelings, while helping her get to a point of feeling happy for her friend’s joy. If she’s feeling down, another life skill to teach her is that it can alter our mood quickly when we change our focus and think about what we have and feel appreciation.
Expressing gratitude to others will also teach him about the joy it can bring him. Have him make a thank you call to a relative for a gift or a kind action. On Thanksgiving, a birthday, or any day, have him tell someone he loves about how grateful he is that they are a part of his life. He will experience the powerful feelings of love that this action awakens.
Originally posted by Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-raise-happy-cooperative-child/202111/teaching-kids-gratitude